Do you know your self

Before we jump in on knowing yourself, I want to encourage you to do the what you like and what you’re good at exercise. It can be a real help in moving you in the right direction and or reassure you that you on the right path.

Ok with the said let’s start with how to help you know more about yourself, so you can be more of what you want to be. Some of you might have a real handle on yourself and others might find that they can learn some things about themselves that will be a spring board to reaching their dreams.

The first thing we will look at is your behavior styles. There are four columns below please circle four words in each column. Do not over think. Circle the ones that hit you as right first.

Demanding Inspiring Relaxed Evasive
Driving Magnetic Passive Worrisome
Ambitious enthusiastic Passive Careful
Pioneering Political Patient Dependent
Strong-willed Enthusiastic Possessive Cautious
Cooperative Factual Restless Independent
Low-Keyed Skeptical Alert Stubborn
Cautious Logical Impatient Opinionated
Agreeable Pessimistic Impulsive Unbending

In the next session I’ll well cover the meaning of the words that you’re circled.
I don’t want to make this over complicated. What you will find out is what your dominate behavior style is. There are four behavior styles, Dominance, Influencing, Steadiness and Compliance. Just so you know we are all a blend of the four. However, we have tendencies toward being high in one or two of the four.

By the way one style is not better than the other. For example great leaders are not just in one behavior style. They can be in any one of the styles.

The real trick is to know your style and learn how to have others complements yours.
The next time I’ll give you the definitions of each style and show you what could be your highest behavior style. Then I will show the best way to work the different styles. Yes I am way ahead of myself so you’ll have to wait tell the next time.

Big problem the columns will not line up. I am sure there is a way to make it work, but I don’t know how. If you want the columns to look right go to david@happinessin8steps.com and I’ll E-mail you it.
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Getting better

We talked last of making two lists one on the right side of what you like and the other on the left side of what you do best. This is not something you have to rush, but rather you should put a lot of thought in to it.

OK you have the lists completed and you have ranked them. Your thinking cap is on and you’re ready to start. I’ll give you an example of what my list looks like. I like to be around people. What I do well at is expressing my ideas. So it seemed to me that being a public speaker was something I should explore. I also like to learn and gain knowledge. It so happens that I am a good reader. So gaining knowledge by reading is something that works will for me.

Do you start to see the picture? I married what I like and what I am good at. Today I am an author, speaker, consultant and coach. Being a consultant and coach come from my strong desire to learn and share with others, so they can be everything than can be.

By using this process you can save a lot of time going down the wrong paths. We all know that there is only twenty four hour in a day, thus saving time can be very beneficial. You should give this process a try even if you feel real comfortable about what and where you in life. If it just reassures you that you are where you should be, that would be enough to make it worthwhile.

Being a behavior analysis I have something to share with you the next time we get together. It is amazing how much we don’t know, so what I’ll give you the next time will help will broaden you prospective on dealing with yourself and others.
I am looking forward to sharing things with you that can help you grow in happiness and wealth.

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This is good to do

Do you want to be better at what you do or be a better you, I sure hope so. If we don’t want to improve our selves then the future will never get better. I have never heard anyone say my golf game is good enough or I know all about my chosen profession. There is a inter drive that wants us to be more than we are today, so I am going to give you a method to help you get and keep yourself in constant improvement.

You can start with an empty sheet of paper. First write on one side at the top what you like. You can also use the words like love or passion. The point is put down those things that you have a high interest it. On the other side at the top put down what you do will.

For the first go around just list the items, do not try to rank them. You want to make the list as long as possible. It is a good idea not to do it in one day. Put the list aside and think about the items on the list. I call this crystallization. Why because your minds will be thrashing these items around in your subconscious. And will be working for you and you will not even it know it.

When you go back to the lists you might have found some other items to add and that is good. Make the list as long as possible. When you feel comfortable that you have everything you could possibly put on the list, and then start to rank the items. You are not in a race so take your time. If your’ not sure of some items ranking, then group them together with similar items.

Let’s look at the list that is of the things you like. Just put them in the order of importance to how you like them.

Now let’s look at the list of would you do well at. Take your time and once you have them ranked you might want to ask a close friend about what they think of you top choices on what you do best. It is to make sure you have taken a real honest look at yourself.

You now have both list completed. Then pout them beside side each other. Now is where you creativity and imagination comes in. Look for how you can match what you like at what you good at.

This is very important so take your time. What you are looking for is opportunities to take you to the next level. We’ll go over that in the next time.

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There are so many wonderful people.

I know that we have so many wonderful people in this world, but in the last week I have had my faith strengthened. Serving as chairman for a Broward College advocacy committee I really got to see some very good people at work helping others. This committee works to raise money for scholar ships and I must say they have a passion for helping those that truly need help to go to college.

Then, I had to go to a Broward College foundations executive committee meeting. Here was another group of people that give their time freely to help others. In the long run, isn’t that what it is all about.

Today I attended a graduation breakfast for “HANDY”. HANDY stands for Helping Abused – Neglected – Disadvantaged Youth and what it does is nothing less than fantastic. They help young people who come from the worst of home environments. They mentor them, coach them and assist these young folks in getting into higher education. To hear these young peoples’ stories of achievement is nothing less than breath taking.

To make all the above happen is the dedication of lots of people. So many of these people work behind the scenes and no one knows they are there, but without them so many people would not get the help that they need.
You can have faith that people are helping people, because they are. Yes, we have had so many things happen that might have caused you to lose faith in others but don’t. The greatest majority of people want to make things better for all and I do mean all.

If you still have doubts, there is a way to cure your doubts, and that is to get involved. Get involved in something you have a real passion for. As you get more intertwined in your passion, you will start to see successes you will get to meet the unsung heroes that are helping make this world a better place.
Get involved and make a difference in the world and in yourself.
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Tips on walking

This might seem real basic, but it is very important. Get yourself a good pair of walking shoes. Make sure they have a good support arch and firm shoes. Also don’t’ ware you’re the heals down to the point they are run over, it will make you walk like a drunken sailor.

Your dress doesn’t need to be anything special. Walking is not a fashion show. You might want loss fitting clothes to give you room and have air flow throw you so you can get rid of your body heat. So far everything’s pretty practical and that as it should be.

Now that you have an idea of what you have to have in shoes and clothing you are off to a life time of healthy exercise. Just think you can go anywhere and walk, will almost. I was in Philadelphia years ago and late one evening my friend Dick and decide to take a walk. It was about 10:00 PM and as we found out it was in the worst part of town. All the stores where boarded up and there were no people on the street. After telling of our last night’s walk we were asked by our local friends if we got mugged. We said no and then it dawned on us why. We were both wearing trench coats with ties on. I guess we look like to police detectives working a beat, so no one bothered us.

Micki and I did something like that on our honeymoon. We were at Niagara Fall staying at the Red Coach Inn. It was a very quant place right across from an island that was in the middle for the falls. On the island was park. The islands name was either Goats or Pigs Island, I can’t remember. Anyways after a great dinner at the Red coach Inn we walked over to the park, I won’t get into the name thing again. It was a cold April night with a brisk breeze. It was a refreshing walk. The next morning the gal at the front desk asked how was everything. We said the dinner at the Inn was sensational and then we took a nice walk on the island. She just about jumped over the front desk. She said” It is not safe over there because gangs meet there at night”. But for some reason the good lord was watching over us and nothing happened.

The point is if your’ in strange location it is probably a good idea to check if it safe to walk there. I don’t want to stop you from walking just because I did some dumb things. I have been walking for over four decades and I am still here.
Walking is good for you so enjoy life and take a walk.

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Take a walk

By taking a walk I am not referring to get out of here, but to do something healthy. Walking is healthy in many ways, one it great cardiovascular exercise, two it good mental exercise.
When I am walking my mind is like flower in a meadow, just as relaxed as it can get. My biggest concern when I am walking is I don’t run into something. At times there is lot of walker and I always give them a smiley good morning and I always get one back.

Walker come in all sizes, shapes, sexes and colors, but we all have one thing I common we enjoy the exercise and enjoy being out side. One couple walks every day and my guess is they are in their early eighties. He uses a cane and she guides him over the rough patches in his path. They are always smiling and talking with one another. It is my wish that Micki and I can enjoy our walk when we reach the golden ages.

There is a reason I walk. One I enjoy it and it makes me feel good in so many ways. Second I can’t run any more do to a large chunk of arthritis in my back and it pains me when I run. I tried swimming but it was too boring for me. I also tried biking but I had to pay too much attention to what I was doing, so walking is what works for me.

So take a walk it is good for you. If you need to extend more effort then run, swim or ride a bike. If you want a challenge let me tell you about my neighbor. He is seventy three and does iron men events. He will be in on in Brazil in June. Now that is really extending yourself.

Be healthy, wealthy, and wise, take a walk.

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What makes a botched marriage

I am not a marriage counselor. Now that we got that out of the way I’ll tell you what I am. I am a married man for over forty five years and can say I wouldn’t have had it any other way. Yes there a lot of people that have been married a long time and I appalled them. It is my hope those people have had as good as marriage as Micki and I.

Just so you know I am a Certificated Behavior and Value analysis as well as a BS in management, economics and sociology. So with that all said why I would want to write about botched marriages. The main reason is if I only helped one couple improve their marriage that would be enough to keep me writing more about marriages.
Let get one myth out of the way. It is you have to date or be engaged for a long time to make a good marriage. You decide what is a long time is. In my experience I don’t think having a long term relationship insures a good marriage. Here is my why. Micki and I meet in the fall semester in college and she didn’t even like me and I was so busy I didn’t even notice she didn’t like me. It was spring time and the school years were fast coming to a close. On Friday we had TGIF parties. If you don’t know what that is E-mail me and I’ll let you in on the secret.

Myself and a fraternity brother where driving through campus and we saw Micki and a friend. We pulled over and asked if they wanted a ride to the TGIF. Everyone on campus, but a few nerds, know where it TIG was. Micki and her friend said they would like to go to the TIG, so they jumped in and we were off. Micki didn’t have any money on her so I loaned her 50cent to get in. That was the last time I saw her until the last day of school I was the one who always drove but on this day a bunch of girls I knew want to take me to Silver Lake, a state park with a beach, reluctantly I went with them and had a great time.

As I was being dropped off everyone had to get out because I was in the back seat and it was a two door. As the car emptied out I noticed a good looking body in front of me and to my surprise it was Micki. The next day I asked her out and that was the beginning of the best part of my life. We were pinned in July, engaged in October and would have been married at the end of January, but here mother said we had to wait till after lent.

So on April 11 we were married and been having a blast ever since. So long relationships are not the secret to not having a good marriage, so would is.
I’ll be giving you more insight on botched marriages in article in the future.

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